Feeling guilty for having a crush while in a relationship

When you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s normal to have a little crush on someone other than your partner. Maybe it’s a cute new co-worker, someone at the gym or the barista who makes your daily lattes.

Don’t worry: that doesn’t make you a bad partner, nor does it mean your relationship is on the rocks.

According to psychologist Samantha Rodman, it’s commonplace for people in relationships to develop crushes, especially after a couple has been together for some time.

“It’s very normal and may have nothing to do with happiness in the relationship overall,” Rodman, who is based in North Bethesda, Maryland, told HuffPost. “Crushes make people feel attractive and alive, and people often get them even when they are very committed to their partners, but the relationship is no longer in that swooning honeymoon phase.”

Being coupled up doesn’t mean you suddenly stop meeting or noticing attractive, appealing people out in the world, Ryan Howes, a psychologist in Pasadena, California, said.

“You won’t stop noticing or feeling attraction toward others, as those feeli

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